
Living your best life happens one step at a time. In a sea of too much, and often conflicting health information, Healthy Bites provides the simple, specific information and guidance you need to make a small step – or, a “healthy bite” – toward a healthier and happier life. Local wellness expert, board-certified health coach and lifestyle counselor, Mikaela D. Martin, of Guidance for Growing in Souderton, writes the monthly Healthy Bites. For more healthy living news and tips, her website at www.guidanceforgrowing.com.
Last week, over 300 million United States citizens reveled in Thanksgiving, a 390-year-old tradition that gives us an opportunity to celebrate and show gratitude for the blessings we received over the year. For most of us, the day included a big meal with all the fixings, football games on the TV, and family traditions. Whether or not your Thanksgiving table had a turkey or a Tofurkey, and whether or not you watched football, almost all of us all share at least one tradition: using Thanksgiving as a time to be thankful.
This annual practice of reflection and giving thanks actually provides quite a compelling peek into the benefits of gratitude. For those who focus on being thankful regularly, the benefits are even further reaching, and can affect mental, physical and spiritual health in quite significant ways. December’s “healthy bite” is a step toward understanding gratitude and learning how to practice in a way that allows us to be happier and healthier – beyond the Thanksgiving table!
Why is gratitude important?
Dr. Robert Emmons of the University of California-Davis (UCD) is a pioneer, author and expert in the study of gratitude. His lab is involved in longitudinal research devised to provide insight and data on the “nature of gratitude, its causes, and its potential consequences for human health and well-being” (UCD, 2011). Excerpted here from the Emmons Lab website are some pretty incredible results they’re already shown (http://psychology.ucdavis.edu/Labs/emmons):
Those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole, and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared to those who recorded hassles or neutral life events (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
- Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress toward important personal goals compared to subjects in the other experimental conditions.
- A daily gratitude practice with young adults resulted in higher reported levels of the positive states of alertness, enthusiasm, determination, attentiveness and energy compared to a focus on hassles or a downward social comparison.
- In a sample of adults with neuromuscular disease, a 21-day gratitude intervention resulted in greater amounts of high-energy positive moods, a greater sense of feeling connected to others, more optimistic ratings of one’s life, and better sleep duration and sleep quality, relative to a control group.
- Children who practice grateful thinking have more positive attitudes toward school and their families (Froh, Sefick, & Emmons, 2008).
“Gratitude is the ‘forgotten factor’ in happiness research. Scientists are latecomers to the concept of gratitude. Religions and philosophies have long embraced gratitude as an indispensable manifestation of virtue, and an integral component of health, wholeness, and well-being,” says Emmons (UCD, 2011).
How do I practice?
The easiest place to start is to simply write down what you were grateful for each week. The format of the list can be whatever you choose; it doesn’t matter if it’s a list or a journal entry, and it doesn’t matter if it’s 50 words or 500 words. Likewise, some people prefer an exercise that engages them several times a week or even every day, so you may want to reflect and write more than once a week. Do what feels right. The idea is to dedicate regular time and acknowledgement to being thankful.
Writing “thank yous” to others is another exercise that puts us in touch with our gratitude – and is sure to spread the thankfulness by bringing smiles to the recipients! Remember that thank you notes are not just for the tangible gifts we receive, but also those intangible ones. Taking time to send a letter of thanks to someone important in your life who has shown care or love is incredibly meaningful for both the writer and the reader, and gives you time to really appreciate the supportive people in your life.
Most of us focus on what our problems and issues are and on what needs to be fixed. Instead, try refocusing on the discovery and development of your strengths, so that you can be thankful for them. Those practicing Positive Psychotherapy recommend writing a “positive introduction,” in which a person tells a story that illustrates one at his or her best, and shows what “highest character strengths” were used (University of Pennsylvania, 2006). Choose a specific instance when you were at your very best, and then tell the story in several paragraphs, focusing on what you believe to be your top strength or strengths. Your positive introduction could be about a milestone in your life, an occurrence at work, making a change in your lifestyle, etc. There are many more activities for utilizing positive psychology on the University of Pennsylvania’s Authentic Happiness website, all of which help facilitate being thankful for our awesome abilities, http:/authentichappiness.sas.upenn.edu.
Finally, limiting complaints leaves room for thankfulness to grow. Negative, fearful and stressful feelings are normal and even useful, so this is certainly not a suggestion to ignore them. Rather, when you find yourself dwelling on an unhappy thought or feeling, ask yourself if it’s helpful. Limit venting sessions with coworkers to once a week instead of once a day. When you have the urge to relay the negative aspects of your day to your best friend, try relaying the positive ones instead. Pay a compliment to your spouse rather than a complaint. These little steps go a long way in fostering an attitude of gratitude.
This month’s “healthy bite” invites thankfulness off of the Thanksgiving table to join us throughout the rest of the year. Use December as an opportunity to establish a practice of gratitude that will nourish you until it’s turkey (or Tofurkey) time once again.
Do you have a great tip for or story about being thankful? Please share it with us in the comments!